June 6-10, 2010 Summer Arts through Culture Program -Positive Vibrations
Foundations, Sponsors Tulane University and Lusher Charter School, New Orleans,
Louisiana: Instructor, Children’s Etiquette)
April 23- May 1, 2010 National Publicity Summit
Man has always been fascinated with mirrors. It is fact that mirrors were once a rare luxury items, and they were often invested with mysticism as reflectors of the soul or the future. In his book, “Mirror Mirror,” Mark Pendergrast concluded of all human inventions, the mirror is perhaps the most intriguing, since it is so closely connected to our own consciousness, reflecting both reality and illusion.
Mirrors have a rich history that mankind can be trace. From the 2,500-year mystery of whether Archimedes and his “burning mirror” really set fire to Roman ships to the mirror’s key role in gathering light from the far reaches of the universe, now enters a new phase of the mirror–Mirror Neurons. Mirror neurons are special cells in our brain.
Now for the first time in history, we gave a valid neurophysiological explanation to help explain and recognize the actions of other people. Mirror neurons are the vacarious feelings when you recreate when watching a movie. There is a technique which fires these mirror neurons into replicating the emotions and feelings of others. It is called Isopraxism or mirroring. Executives and individuals who practice mirroring have found immense personal and business success. Thus, I feel it important to introduce the executive or business person to become familiar with Isopraxism: Mirroring for achievement.
In perfecting your business skills as well as your manners, try to develop your rapport skills. Rapport occurs when you match other people’s behavior. This is why you have heard that to copy someone is the sincerest form of flattery. In order to do so, you must be willing and flexible to enter someone else’s reality. This is achieved through the bond-building technique of Isopraxism/Mirroring.
Any relationship starts with “WIIFM –What is in it for me? Start by discovering what interest the other person. Etiquette dictates sharpening one’s listening skills so that it makes the other person feel like they have been heard and accepted.
Part of mirroring and building rapport with anyone is by pacing. Plainly speaking, be like your client, because rule number one, he likes people who are like him. The very first step to pacing is the rate, tone and pitch of your voice. Next, match their breathing rhythm with their posture.If they are speaking fast with alot of hand gestures, you would do the same.
Mirroring, pacing and leading is a process like etiquette that creates comfort for your client. When someone feels like you both are sympatico , he will open his comfort zone and be more compliant to your pitch. Remember people do not but into idea, products or services…they buy you!
Currently, we are a nation of voyeuristic viewing of guilty pleasure such as TV reality shows selecting potential marital mates, and tabloid magazines devoted to the scandals of the young and younger starlets eliciting their fame from borderline criminal, sexual and socio-pathological escapades.
These Paris’ and Nicoles are dubbed “celebutantes” who embody an empty reservoir of fame for the sake of fame.
Now enters the “bratutante!” The bratutante is a neologism whose goal is the fame of the “celebutante” and the status of the “debutante” acquired through inappropriate negative behaviors. These “brats” delight in displays of rude manners and take their cues from shows as “Mean Girls.”
There is a cottage industry among the “tweens” with the perpetuation of the “BRATZ” mega-industry. The “bratz” theme is vanity while the word implies -– Be RUDE, MEAN and INCONSIDERATE!
Statistics shows a fast definitive rise in juvenile crimes among girls. The fame game of the “bratutante” was depicted in the recent glamorization of an assault and battery on a 14 year-old- girl by her own peers. Proudly, their conquest was posted on U-Tube. Remember when crimes were secreted, covert and categorically denied?
There is a VERITAS saying among foreigners: “That there are no children in the United States.” We have a “hot-house “pressure in our culture that catapults our children prematurely into maturity. When there are modest restrictions on their techno-activities, games, movies and My Space, it endangers and apes the vanities and vices of their elders. Combine with the idealization of their superficial role-models – the foundation of manners that are necessary to succeed in avoiding the pitfalls of a wounded character are in dire cultural decline.
Today parents need to be well-versed in “urban” detection. For proper character development of a child, parents must be vigilant in their monitoring of role-models and friends.
It is our obligation to give direction in the selection of friends and expel the negative influences by exercising the virtue of self-control. It is important that the parent cultivate moral courage by saying and doing what is believed to be right regardless of the consequences. It is also necessary to illustrate the appreciation for the moral courage exhibited in the character of others.
However, it is not enough to simply teach; there must be the example of daily life to cinch these life-lesson-skills. Eventually, society protects itself from social parasites that give nothing, but take everything. Society does yields to the general good and positive behavior is rewarded